I got burnt out on apps that felt like part-time jobs. Somewhere between deadlines and laundry, meeting someone stopped being realistic. I don't miss the bad dates as much as I miss actually wanting to go on one. The last vacation photo of just me pushed me to find Asian Women and the chats start with actual questions, not just 'hey'. Turns out I was never the problem — the pond was. That was all the evidence I needed, honestly.